And then it was over.

[BlueSea]

LH - What do you do with a WAS spouse that is having a EA/PA actively while living with you at home?

Do you ask him to leave?

If I do, I know he is just going to run straight into her arms. Then what? Then how will he see any changes or burn thru that resentment when he will have started a 'new' life, and be filling his mind with the OW. To me that would just prolong it all.

If I can tolerate what he is doing (which is so so painful) will he just eventually come back? Its hard for me to understand how, if he is not here, will he see any changes?

What have you seen that works?