Maybe I’m terribly naive. Maybe I missed something in an earlier post. You keep saying you can’t make her leave H’s house. YOU are the parent. I get that she’s 14 so she’s got her own voice and can make her own choices and teenagers are very difficult to “manage” even on good days. But, I’m having a hard time seeing what is in it for her staying with H. From your accounts, he doesn’t appear to interact with her much and barely provides for her. Is it just that she has her own room because you keep mentioning her staying there until you find a bigger place. Sometimes you have to pick your battles, I get it, but something just seems odd about this whole thing. I feel like I’m missing something.


Me 52, H53
Bomb drop 9/29/2014
Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014
Marriage #2 12/31/2019
5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships)
6 grandkids