Midlife wife crisis14

[Wolfman]

You are all right I definitely moved fast. I wasn’t expecting anything to happen but it did. The timeline is off for some of you. When I met my GF it was 10 months after we separated/divorced. My kids met my GF 18 months after separation/divorce. My GF and I were dating 9 months before they met her and it was very gradual. I know this is so hard on my kids, I know I have made many mistakes but I have learned a lot of other things. I am a better person( even though it may not seem like it here). So many of you are right, I do place too much blame on the ex. I am trying to really look back and reflect on those mistakes I made in my previous marriage and not to make them again. I will definitely work on just speaking about what I have done and what I can do better. Other than this website I have no experience with divorce. No one in my family was divorced, none of my friends have divorced parents. So a lot of times I actually ask friends if what I am doing is right or wrong. I should have just come here more. Unfortunately I did a lot of what my ex did, act on emotion and that doesn’t usually work out. I never expected to fall for someone so quick. I dated to other women before my GF, it was fun but nothing there. I didn’t think I would feel like this again. I am sorry that I have put my kids through this. Yes, I did do things for myself. That was maybe not beneficial to the kids. I didn’t know how to cope with such a loss. It I am in such a better place and truly love the woman I have in my life. All I can try and do is be the best father I can be to these children. I am not a bad guy, at times I did make some very selfish decisions, whether you guys agree or not it made me a better person, stronger person and really ready to take on what life has to throw at me. Going forward it’s nothing but the best interest of my children. Thank you everyone for the 2x4s.