I so clearly remember when he randomly told the kids that you guys were getting a D. He is in such a ridiculous fog. So glad you can emotionally disconnect from his confusion! I think there really is no way to understand WTF is going through their heads. They definitely don't know what is up!
I think asking questions is helpful. It also gives you a break from reacting/responding right away and puts the ball back in their court with more opportunity to understand (to the degree possible) what is going on in their heads.
HUGS. You're doing so well with all of this-- I'm continually impressed with the way you keep your wits about you and the incredible grace and class under pressure.
Me (46) H (42) M:14 T:18, D9 & D11 4/19 - 12/19: series of escalating BDs 9/20 - present: R and piecing