Is it surprising to you that the first thing MIL asked was if H hit you? That stood out to me. I have to say, this is the response I kept wishing I would get from my MIL--not the questions, but the shock and the hope. I guess my H must have explained it to her in such a way that it seemed inevitable (he's been unhappy for years is one of his lines), but it still blows my mind that she didn't express any shock to me.
H’s maternal grandfather was physical, so I think my MIL sees that as a possibility for H since he does have a volatile personality. Your H probably elaborated on the subject a lot more than mine lol. My H didn’t even tell MIL that he moved out. Which I would not be surprised if he later wants to blame me for disclosing this information to her.
Originally Posted by cardinal
Were you rattled at all internally here? Or you've heard enough of his ranting by this point to know not to give anything he says any significance?
I think I’ve learned to anticipate these sorts of words of threats from him. It’s easier to deal with these words when I remember that his words aren’t personal. So I wasn’t rattled, I was asking for clarification sincerely because I did not understand what he meant by “handling things this way.” It is still significant to me in terms of that I want to know what he means. So instead of ignoring his statement, I chose to ask questions. Although ultimately it turned out to be pointless anyway, lol. Maybe there is no way to understand what these WASes are thinking.
