4> I saw that Husband had a different brand of ciggarettes. So I asked about them. He said that he was ready to quit next week. I asked him if he'd be interested in reading about what he can expect while quitting. I told him that would help me...give me an idea of what to expect...so I would be prepared. He told me it wouldn't help him. And then he asked me to make him a promise. He asked me to promise to not talk about his quitting smoking until the day before he's to quit. Cause talking about it will make him anxious.
He told me that he can see for me that talking makes me less anxious..but that's not how it works for him.
Wow. I thanked him for opening up to me. I told him that I struggle sometimes because he and I think differently. And I make many ASSumptions on what he's thinking and feeling, based on what I would think/feel. And that he has given me a huge gift by opening up to me and telling me that talking would make him anxious!
