Limbo over, now separated but in lockdown (part 3)

[Pommy99]

May, (Or anyone) what are your thoughts the timing for discernment counselling? I mentioned it to H after his R u-turn and he said it didn’t sound like a bad idea. But I don’t know if it’s pointless right now, because he seems so far out of the marriage, or whether I should give it more time of NC and see how that pans out? I feel like if I initiate DC I am constantly trying to “do something” to fix the marriage (=pressure) rather than just dropping the rope and “ do nothing”.

I’m not really clear on where he’s at but it’s been 3 weeks since he wanted to come home and then changed his mind and seems further away than ever.