I'm not sure how to answer you because I think any and all of your suggestions could apply.
Before DBing, I believed he was tough as a rock. That's certainly what he told me. I had the impression that he wanted to be Spock from Star Trek. That emotions were something he didn't want to feel or admit that he felt.
After DBing...I've learned so much about him. In some cases based on his words...but in most cases based on his actions. And what I've learned is that he's very sensitive to me.
And his request to have me smile a lot goes hand in hand with something he'd said to me earlier. I don't remember what it was. But it did leave the impression in my mind that my smiles were VERY important to him.
I remember one time I was frowning in thought...and he told me in a wounded voice that seeing my forehead scrunching up, upset him...he told me to smooth it out and smile.
I love that he's so sensitive...and ashamed that I had no idea.
I guess the bottom line is, I'm still very confused..still trying to get to know him. Who is this man that I love?
