So, This morning, during our carpool, I told husband that I wanted to lose weight before trying to have a baby. He asked why and I told him about getting diabetes during pregnancy.
I told him I wanted to make sure that he understood that, and that I wasn't rejecting him.
He asked why I thought he'd feel rejected.
I told him I was just concerned he might.
He kept asking why I would think that.
So, I got frustrated and said with sarcasm, I guess you wouldn't.
We drove for a bit without talking.
As I was dropping him off, I told him that I really was just concerned about his feelings.
He said he was upset by my sarcasm.
I told him that I was sorry for being sarcastic.
This afternoon we had this exhange on IM.
ME: wanna be friends? H: sure ME: :-) ME: will you forgive me? H: hmm, maybe ME: I'll leave you alone then H: if you promise to smile a lot ME: I can do that ME: :-* H: ok then
This just reinforces the idea to me that he NEEDS to see me happy. That when I'm not he takes it personally.
I need to remember this. No wonder he was so miserable when I was depressed.
