Hey guys I love this, it seems so long since I have had fun on the bb.
It has all been doom, gloom and serious stuff!
I want to figure out the points for my 'normal' day and see where I am at. I don't even know how many pts. I should be at right now as I have lost more weight since I was going to ww.
Thank you both for the info.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
I think Dotti lists the points somewhere on her site. You might have to dig a bit.
Her food lists and her restaurant lists are very helpful.
I don't want to list the points here because I think there are some rules about not posting that info...it's copyrighted or something. I don't want to get Michele in trouble.
Sage, thank you for the info...I never even looked to see if I could have a pbj...now I want one! LOL!
I do think I might have neglected to mention besides the PB I have been having one of WW's ice cream sandwiches a lot of evenings since it has gotten so warm!!! But that is only 2 pts.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
One, I've sunk back into a vicious cycle. Been looking at husband as if he were with-holding sex from me. Sigh. That's not going to work. It sinks my PMA and I treat him horribly because I'm full of resentment.
So.
If I were a guy and he were my wife, y'all would kick my butt for taking it personally that he doesn't want to make love more than once a week.
You'd tell me it's her body and that if I respect her, I'd be loving and accepting of her needs.
2> Somewhere along the way, my focus switched from what can I do for Husband/relationship...to what can I get from Husband/Relationship. Another PMA sinker and vicious cycle.
Time to refocus.
and finally,
3> I've been looking to husband to affirm to me that I'm a woman, whole and attractive.
It's not his job to affirm this for me. I have to believe it for myself.
There is plenty I can do to show myself that I am beautiful, passionate, and full of joy. Little things, like painting my toenails, paying attention to my outfits, taking bubble baths. Etc.
You getting it! One thing I realized when this whole mess started was that I wasn't taking time for me. It was rare that I pampered myself. Sure the nails got done, but now I do pamper myself. Manicures, pedicures, even a swing by the makeup counter (not to buy) now and then is good for you!
When you can't make a decision because you are torn between your heart and your head, listen to the half with the brain.
So, This morning, during our carpool, I told husband that I wanted to lose weight before trying to have a baby. He asked why and I told him about getting diabetes during pregnancy.
I told him I wanted to make sure that he understood that, and that I wasn't rejecting him.
He asked why I thought he'd feel rejected.
I told him I was just concerned he might.
He kept asking why I would think that.
So, I got frustrated and said with sarcasm, I guess you wouldn't.
We drove for a bit without talking.
As I was dropping him off, I told him that I really was just concerned about his feelings.
He said he was upset by my sarcasm.
I told him that I was sorry for being sarcastic.
This afternoon we had this exhange on IM.
ME: wanna be friends? H: sure ME: :-) ME: will you forgive me? H: hmm, maybe ME: I'll leave you alone then H: if you promise to smile a lot ME: I can do that ME: :-* H: ok then
This just reinforces the idea to me that he NEEDS to see me happy. That when I'm not he takes it personally.
I need to remember this. No wonder he was so miserable when I was depressed.
Must try these routines...