And another thing from your response, Allison that was super enlightening to me:
"H did actually accuse me of lying about something one of the kids said about him. I wish I hadn't reported it to him - it wasn't necessary and it was inserting myself in a relationship that had no need of me at that point. I wouldn't do that now. But when he did say I was lying, I said, 'Whether you believe it or not, it happened,' and left it there. Defending yourself from someone who is motivated not to believe you because they don't like the way the truth makes them feel is a waste of time."
How does one decide what should and should not be shared with a WAS with regards to the kids' emotional wellbeing? In my situation, the kids talk to me a lot more candidly and really don't address any of it with H. They have big questions and big feelings about everything and he has asked for me to share that with him. But when I do, I get accused of embellishing the truth, coercing the kids into thinking/feeling/believing a particular narrative or even that I am lying (NONE of which is true, BTW).
I don't want to be in the middle anymore, but I also don't want the kids to feel that they can't talk about the big stuff. So do I just stop sharing? Create a boundary around this?
