When H was still at home everything was just blah and the kids stayed in their rooms. I stupidly thought splitting up the kids made the most sense because neither of us could afford a 4 bedroom house (or so I thought). So dumb I know. H loved bombed D14 and since we were't close AT ALL she chose to live with him. In mid December we began to work though our issues aided by the part where H was never home. She doesn't live with me so my opportunities to bond with her are limited. I'm 5 months out but lost 2 to COVID. H has full custody and that is my reality. The kittens will bring her around more. That's not why I'm doing this but I will take every opportunity I get to be with or talk to D14.
