It's honestly pretty typical for a WAS to treat the LBS very poorly, even "hate" them. It will change in time, but it's miserable to go through for sure. Just hang in there and try to be patient!
Sorry if I wasn't clear. This was my internal dialogue when I was falling apart in private. He has never said that he hates me or even dislikes me. Since DDay he has complimented me more than in the past. I think patience is key in my situation. I am trying really hard. It's just difficult watching him put the pieces together.
Originally Posted by AnotherStander
Don't ever say that! Even in a healthy relationship. No one likes to be told they are wrong! If you step back and listen and validate, then often the other person will realize they were overreacting. But the key is letting them arrive at that conclusion themselves.
I feel like I missed that day in Relationships 101 or something. It seems so obvious now, but it was definitely not something I was taught or fully aware of before.
