I don't think WAW wants that right now, and I certainly don't. I can't speak to her logic, other than to repeat what she's said, which is that she wants to get the legal separation in place such that she understands the lay of the land. Beyond that I don't have much of an answer. Optimistically I could say that if she wanted to get a D, she would say that and be moving towards it. She's never said it and isn't taking any direct action towards that.
Originally Posted by CWarrior
Are you eager for Divorce or Legal Separation?
I wouldn't say I'm eager for it - certainly not D - but not having a legal separation in place does impact me financially in a way I'd like to get resolved, and I also believe not having one is causing us to be in this protracted limbo purgatory. But I am obviously very aware that I likely won't like what's on the other side of the mountain.
I think where I failed here - apart from reaching out - is that I'm taking the 180s too literally. It is indeed a 180 for me to help organize our finances, show teamwork, and stay on top of them. But you're right that I'm doing the legwork here towards an outcome that I don't want.
Sigh, this is hard. One step forward, two steps back.
