I do want to be open and helpful w/r/t the legal separation because of our historical issues of working together on things (show a 180) and her literally saying that how we communicate and handle that process will tell her a lot. I know, I know - believe her actions, not words.
Hi SteveS,
You say you "know" this, but asking her for words implies you don't believe it applies to you or her.
Are you eager for Divorce or Legal Separation? If yes, then working with her to do that is great. Otherwise, another DB maxim is to let the WAS do the legwork. Don't help them achieve that which you don't want. Open the cage door, but don't push them out, or place treats outside it (with help and generous terms).
