Here is the thing, hope doesn't have to be a counter motivator to doing what you need to do. It is kind of like if a loved one suffers a debilitating illness or injury, you hope they fully recover someday. But that doesn't mean that you don't prepare for their current condition. Putting in a wheelchair ramp at the house, getting a vehicle that can transport them and their chair, etc. The whole time you still have hope that one day they'll fully heal and recover.
I like that analogy, it makes a lot of sense.
No point in lying to you guys - I caved to the hurt I was feeling and told WAW that I'd like to talk about where we're at. She responded and we're talking on Sunday. She wants to go over the paperwork for a legal separation, which she's consistently said is a blocker for her.
I made my bed I suppose, but I don't have to lie in it. I do want to be open and helpful w/r/t the legal separation because of our historical issues of working together on things (show a 180) and her literally saying that how we communicate and handle that process will tell her a lot. I know, I know - believe her actions, not words. But obviously I think so far as a larger discussion, I'll just punt and say that I changed my mind, and that we should focus on the things we need to take care of first.
