I see a lot of positives here, Dilly. Your fun and sense of adventure and high standards when it comes to the dating site. You're not relying on any of those guys to make you feel better, you're wondering if there's someone out there who might add to your life. It's a great attitude. Your curiosity and sense of adventure is driving the car and that is very attractive!
Also - you are taking things into your own hands when it comes to paperwork, finances and the rubbish your H has left behind. You've not checked or asked him or warned him, you've just, as any independent woman would, got some appropriate help and seized the task with both hands.
