Well I'm far from being a Dr. Ruth or Sue Johanason (sp?) but I'll give it a whirl ...
Its not about the lure of sex, but accessibility. There is a subtle difference. If its always there when he wants it, like anything else its taken for granted and loses some of its appeal. Its not until its taken away does he notice what he is missin' ... a theme we all should be familar with by now.
So IMHO, acting "as-if" sex is disgusting or trying to be less appealing is not the approach to take, but to lure without making it readily accessibile. For example, have you notice that your H's interest is peaked when you decide to wear something sensual for a social occasion? Its because the lure is there, but he knows he can't act upon it right away. (well unless you're willing to be late to where you're suppose to be.)
What other ways could you go about creating that kind of ambiance? ... especially when staying at home? To be more of a tease without making it obvious? Create your own style of being "hot-to-trot" but play hard to get ... look but no touchie ... well at least not without making him work for it a bit.
but I'll give it a whirl ...
