Aww wooba, you're such a good boy mom. This has me tearing up a lil bit.
You know, I've had quite a few of these moments recently...when S9 said that to me in the car it was a weird feeling like... I felt like the old me would cry about it if I had heard him say that 6 months ago. But I don't get that sad feeling anymore. It's real acceptance now and there was no sadness. S7 the other day wrote in his school journal "daddy sometimes comes home....and sometimes doesn't." I feel like an outsider would read that and feel horrible for the child. But in reality S7 was not even sad about it, he just wrote it matter-of-factly. That was eye-opening to me because I realized that something that sounds sad may not really be sad. We all interpret things in wildly different ways. something that seems so "obvious" is actually wrong.
Originally Posted by wayfarer
You're just sounding so calm and grounded lately. It really helps me relocate my zen when I'm having a bad day/moment and wondering what I'm doing and why. I just have to remember regardless of outcome, I'm here doing this because I want to be calm and resolute in the end no matter what. So thank you for being that
Aw thank you. Yes, the easy way is usually not the right way. being calm and resolute is not easy. I used to try to follow "if you have nothing nice to say, then don't say anything at all." Now it's more like "If you have something to say, zip it and sleep on it." lol.
