You guys are the best. I’m happy to report that I didn’t lose sleep over this issue. It was a good chance to practice my standard-nonemotional- matter of fact -gray rock like response.
The gray rock thing had me rolling. OMG. I've worked hard on my flat affect but my face usually betrays me. So good on you my friend.
Originally Posted by wooba
YouLast night out when the kids asked what we’re having for dinner, I said “something daddy made.” And then S9 said, “it’s like daddy is not even part of our family anymore.” He then added, “I’ve been thinking about this and wanted to say it, but I didn’t want to make you mad.” I then reassured him that I would never be mad If he wants to share his feelings with me.
Aww wooba, you're such a good boy mom. This has me tearing up a lil bit.
Originally Posted by wooba
YouI then said to the kids, “you guys probably have your own ideas of what a father should be like.” S11 then said dad is just working so much. I said, “Daddy is not always working. But he is only capable of doing so much right now- cooking and bringing food for you guys, pumping up the tires for your bikes.”
I wanted to say more and ask more questions. But felt like it was best to leave the convo at that.
This was probably best. The kids seem to be pretty open with you. They'll come to you. And you'll know when it's time to say more and ask more if they don't.
You're just sounding so calm and grounded lately. It really helps me relocate my zen when I'm having a bad day/moment and wondering what I'm doing and why. I just have to remember regardless of outcome, I'm here doing this because I want to be calm and resolute in the end no matter what. So thank you for being that
