Steve85, thank you so much for your response. I love your ‘being full’ analogy (read it before in another post). So true.
I also appreciate your last statement about the length of it all. I am a bit confused as to why he hasn’t pulled the D trigger if he really is planning on doing it. Maybe you are right.
Two things that are making me feel absolutely crazy (my friends and family consider me to be a grounded, calm human, so this is out of the norm for me) are 1) whole re-writing of our history; and 2) denial of the EA, they are just friends, despite things I have read with my own eyes. I suppose even the most sane of us has our own path to madness; he may well have found mine.
Hi Sage, first, let me start with some compassion: you are going through an awful situation, but I applaud you for being strong, asking for help, and beginning down the road towards a brighter tomorrow. There's going to be lots of ups and downs, but you're strong and you will be happy again. This I promise you.
As far the WAS not pulling the trigger on D, in most cases it's because they simply don't have to. Why deal with all of that drama if you don't have to? As strange as it may sound, in a lot of cases on this forum, it's actually the LBS that ends up pulling the trigger, because they've decided that they're no longer interested in letting the WAS have it both ways.
I'm sorry and I feel you on the history re-writing. It's painful and it makes you question the life that you knew. But please keep in mind that the re-writing is just a defense mechanism for the WAS to help them compartmentalize the pain they're causing. When you're out the door - and especially when there's a EA/PA involved - it's not about logic, it's about justification.
Please post here often. The community is supportive, and will help you when you need it the most, even if it's not exactly what you want to hear. There are lots of success stories from veterans, so it can be done!
