You guys are the best. I’m happy to report that I didn’t lose sleep over this issue. It was a good chance to practice my standard-nonemotional- matter of fact -gray rock like response.
Last night out when the kids asked what we’re having for dinner, I said “something daddy made.” And then S9 said, “it’s like daddy is not even part of our family anymore.” He then added, “I’ve been thinking about this and wanted to say it, but I didn’t want to make you mad.” I then reassured him that I would never be mad If he wants to share his feelings with me.
I then said to the kids, “you guys probably have your own ideas of what a father should be like.” S11 then said dad is just working so much. I said, “Daddy is not always working. But he is only capable of doing so much right now- cooking and bringing food for you guys, pumping up the tires for your bikes.”
I wanted to say more and ask more questions. But felt like it was best to leave the convo at that.
