It is wonderful to see H is still sharing with you. I’d say you found the right balance of when to reach out and when not too - for him and you.
You are, of course, correct that H is both prisoner and jailer. He holds his own key; like we all do. Perhaps he is starting to see that.
Keep acknowledging and accepting what he shares; when appropriate, you got a good handle on that. Processing and sorting through fears and irrational emotions takes time and some odd detours once in a while.
You really are shinning bright and he sees the lighthouse. He is still captain of his ship and still decides where he goes. However, he is watching.
Awakening is a slow journey. And you want it slow. You want it right.
Live the good and peaceful life my friend.
DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
