Her opinion was that given that something like finding WAW on Bumble was enough to completely throw me off that happiness and recovery, that's sign enough that the situation has crossed over into something that is damaging and actively holding me back, and therefore for my own good I need to address it.
This is just your brain trying to get you to pursue so you can get some relief from the pain that your feeling.
Originally Posted by SteveS
Whether I ask the question or I don't, the answer probably doesn't change. But I also don't want to get D.
Steve you have to try to understand that you have no control over her choosing to D you.
Originally Posted by SteveS
Am I a fool for clinging on to whatever hope I have?
Hope is ok if it motivates you. Hope is not ok if it causes suffering.
Originally Posted by SteveS
I feel I know the answer: detach, focus on you, and if there is going to be some big change, it's going to have to come from a change of heart on her side, for which there is no timeline.
Yes
Originally Posted by SteveS
It's just so hard for me to detach when I'm clinging on to hope.
Yes it is, especially when your holding on with all your might.
