I know how you feel. My ex is dating a much younger girl that’s sweet with our son and my guess is would obviously want kids. (I had wanted another kid so bad - and it was the only reason i even wanted my ex back. Even way before he left, I remember thinking “just give me 1 more kid and we can divorce”) with me, he would sleep till 3pm while i was up early with a infant/toddler. He even slept in on days he was supposed to pick son up from preschool while I was working. But I noticed that now - he can wake up if he has to meet us somewhere and that you don’t have to call his phone 50x to wake him up. I would be so mad if he had a kid yet wasted my childbearing years. And even madder if he helped out more with new kid.
I’m not sure anymore - if it’s a matter of f’d up people that don’t change their stripes. My ex lives an easy life right now. No responsibility- no hardships. But once he remarries - any normal partner will have similar demands that I did.
Or is it a matter of relationship dynamics. Like maybe they will be more compatible with a different personality and maturity - just like we will.
I kind of think he’s gonna end up being jealous of your “perfect life” with hobbies and socializing and older kids and without the sleep deprivation.
