Hawho, wow... you hit the nail on the head 100%. I can’t even say anything more than that.

Thank you for taking the time to so eloquently share that. Your h’s upbringing, your experience, the aftermath mirrors my experience too. This part particularly stings- “people like this are strategic. They pick their partners. I believe they pick people who have a lot of bandwidth for dealing with difficult people like them...” ugh. I’m still dealing with the aftermath of all this. I got in too deep with my ex and I shouldn’t have, but I believed I could tolerate him because I didn’t have as many neurosis and I’m still paying the price for that. I’m so mad at myself as a result. Ugh this guy completely and deliberately screwed me over the whole marriage. Ok... I’m going to stop the hijack on Gerda’s thread.....

Gerda, there’s good stuff here to digest. I hope it helps it bring clarity.

Last edited by Pax_luv; 05/20/20 05:35 AM.
Me- 30's H- 40's
T-10 M-5
I moved out b/c he wanted space- June 15
D filed by H: September 16