Don’t even bring it up unless your ready to D her. What did you think was going to happen? Did you think she wasn’t going to date?
Yeah, I don't know. It's a good question. When we went into the S, we didn't have any conversations around structure or ground rules or anything. I wish we did.
I do remember in MC before we stopped going that WAW characterized the S as "giving space, not giving up". I remember that very clearly. For me, dating someone else sort of feels like giving up, so the implication would be that we wouldn't. I haven't, at least not seriously and nothing with a relationship in mind. I also clearly remember telling her that I had two stipulations: that I wouldn't be a Plan B, and that I wanted us both to agree that dragging things out if one side was done in the name of letting the other down easily would be much more hurtful than just having the conversation.
I suppose that's the difference between being on one side of a BD as opposed to the other. One side goes into full-on self-improvement mode, reading books, coming on here, going to IC. The other side just enjoys the freedom.
