A friend of mine in CA was talking about his love life, and how strange it is to be dating in the age of the virus. I asked him how he's been going about it, and he said that he's been using an app called Bumble, and it's really worked well for him.
Me being the fool I am, I got curious, downloaded it, and literally ten or so profiles in, boom, WAW.
I probably should have considered how I would feel if I saw her on there before I downloaded it, but I didn't. Obviously I'm not thrilled. Knowing what I know about her schedule, I'm sort of shocked she has time to date anyone even without the virus but I guess that's besides the point.
Here's where I waffle, even though I know the peanut gallery is going to jump all over me: during the M, I had Tinder and Bumble on my phone now and then, not to date anyone or meet anyone, but just to see what was out there. It seems so stupid (and hurtful) in retrospect, but it was kind of fun just to see all of the people who were around. I deleted it once my WAW found out from a friend of hers who found me on it; I'm sure you can imagine the fight and damage that incident caused. Anyway, what I'm driving at is that I guess I don't know that she's specifically using it to date, but that's probably giving her an awful lot of leeway given the situation.
So, what to do? Detachment would say not to care, it is what it is, blowing up and forcing a negative conversation isn't going to help anything. But I assume others would say "Look, that's a boundary, you're well within your right to say that you're not going to stay in this S if the other is out actively dating". Any insight?
