Did you feel like H loved you unconditionally? What is your LL? Acts of Service? I felt incredibly lonely being a mum, H did little to make feel loved. Sure he provided for the family, but he only showed affection or gave me attention when he wanted sex. And I used to hate that, and it made me resent him, but I never understood why I felt that way. Like you, I was unhappy but I never walked out. For better or for worse. Now I have more understanding of how a marriage should work, and it’s frustrating to see how and why it fell apart, and to have the desire to do my part to fix it, but not have that cooperation from H.
I knew I was deeply loved by H. He is a person full of hurt from past history. I know how hard it was for him to open his heart to me and let me in. I thought he would love me unconditionally. But even I didn’t love him unconditionally. It is much harder than it sounds. I think ultimately the depression took him over (I didn’t realize) and he lost bits of his old self of the years. We were struggling to connect emotionally in the last few years.
Originally Posted by Pommy99
What did you conclude about the value that H adds to your life? I have been wondering the same thing. I have always fought for the love and attention of my H, and I’m still fighting. And I ask myself why I think he can meet my needs and those of the family. I honestly d9nt know the answer!!
Currently it is close to zero if not negative, lol!!!
