LOL May, i love that description - he is a poor excuse for a H, and yes his head is firmly where the sun don't shine! I think when I said to him that it makes me feel sick that your'e my H but you're not a H, it made him reel a little.
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I wonder what you were trying to accomplish when you said this to him?
I dont know LH. Why do you ask? It was mid-conversation - we were talking about what I want, about how I wanted a H and was describing how I feel when I look at him and know that although he's my husband he's not a H anymore. And he looked shocked and a little hurt. But that's me just second guessing. Although he played that back to me afterwards from his PoV - "you're my wife, but you're not my wife anymore" - and I guess that hurt me too. We're only married on paper, it feels.
M:49 H:49 T:20 M:18 D:16 D:14
EA: Feb 2019-May 2020 Separated: Mar-early Aug 2020 H asked to reconcile: Jun 2020 EA relapse: Oct/Nov 2020 Recon #2: since Nov 2020