Limbo over, now separated but in lockdown (part 3)

[Pommy99]

Sometimes closure is just you finding acceptance in "the way things are." Whether you want to close that door, or leave the door open, it's all the same. Accept your decision in the short term, and revisit it every now and then

. This makes a lot of sense. I dont think I went looking for a definitive answer to "are you in or out", but I wanted to put some closure to this current state of limbo, and I think showing him I have a voice has put some form of closure - or at least a change of dyanmic - to the situation.

You deserve far more than this half-a$$ed excuse of a psuedo-H who is--whether it is purposeful or not-- just dumping breadcrumbs for you (how great your legs are) while at the same time telling you he wants something else and is scared he won't find it. His head is very, very far up his a$$ right now and I kind of feel sorry for him, a little, but more want to punch him in the nose for treating you and his children like this.

LOL May, i love that description - he is a poor excuse for a H, and yes his head is firmly where the sun don't shine! I think when I said to him that it makes me feel sick that your'e my H but you're not a H, it made him reel a little. He looked a little shocked (again). My BFF says he thinks he's god's gift to women and that he thinks I idolise him - and for the first time I've really called him out on the fact he hasnt acted like a H or any person I want in my life.

Re the IC, I know that this partcular person (male) does not do MC, so I am wondering how 'pro-marriage' he will be, or how experienced in dealing with marital issues, or helping H understand that there *may* be an alternative to leaving. H doesnt really see the cost of IC as an investment in himself so I would be surprised if he sticks it out for long.