Originally Posted by cardinal
I'm sorry to hear that you can't escape from his noises in the house. I guess it makes the time when he's actually gone that much more peaceful and quiet.


What your H said is actually what you should aim for. He is asking you to detach! His intentions do not matter, who knows what these WASes are thinking anyway? The brief & disinterested responses are totally counter-intuitive because we are trained to be caretakers and fixers. But just as you were trained to do the things you used to do before, you can train yourself with using these responses, and eventually it will become easier. It's actually pretty difficult for me because I tend to normally be upbeat and positive anyway, but when H shows up I don't want to give off the vibe like I wanna hang out and chat so I have to put my game face on (which is like a calmer version of PMS lol). Thank goodness he usually gets it and will not hang around much.

Last edited by job; 05/18/20 02:56 PM. Reason: fixed quote

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