J, Actions not words. 6 weeks NC with you speaks volumes.
LH19, can you elaborate on this? I just want to understand what you mean exactly. Thank you!
Originally Posted by IronWill
How did this happen? Well - here's some advice: stop chasing after someone who is running away. It's not a good look. Choose whether you are standing or not. If you are, give yourself the best possible chance for saving yourself (note: yourself, not your MR) by DB your [censored] off. Focus on you. Do nothing. Say nothing - do not initiate conversations at all unless it is an emergency. Get out of the way, remove yourself from the equation as much as you can. That's what they want. Let them figure things out. That's what you can do to help them, and it will greatly help you to get calm and grounded and figure out what YOU want too.
Thank you for the support IronWill! I have been reading your thread as well, 20 months is a very long time. I'm just working on patience. When I truly ask myself do I want to stand for my marriage, the answer is yes. However, I have to be realistic, we weren't married that long, we have no kids, and she doesn't seem to have much of a problem just letting me out of her life. It's the properly ending it part she just won't get done. So some days I get frustrated and want to push her along, but that hasn't seemed to have much effect either really, so in the end, I just need to focus on myself as you said and come out of this the best that I can!
