My narcissistic ex wasn’t much of a rager, although his company did make him go to anger management once (when he got mad at someone who ratted him out for breaking the company rules).
He had charm up the wazoo ( see my post elsewhere about his best friend telling me ex was a “god among men” Lolol).
Now it’s all self- pity; it’s so unfair that I get part of the pension earned during our 24 year marriage, it’s so terrible that he has to find a way to live on his $9600 a month pension and $800k 401k and wife’s $80k plus salary. It’s so unfair that his 60 year old body is betraying him when he still wants to pretend he’s 30 (yes, it’s unfair, but he had no empathy for our son’s diagnosis of Ehlers Danlos syndrome, so now we’re supposed to all give him sympathy?) .
You know, this is going to sound weird, but I’d be glad your ex has OW. Yes I said it. Be glad because there’s another adult around to shield your son from your ex’s rages. Yes, it’d be easier if it was someone other than the OW, but at least she seems to be nice to S, since he seems to like her. It could be much worse.
