Hey OG keep shining, darkest before the dawn, keep the focus on you. Keep DBing!
Lol!
You crack me up LH lol
Oceangirl- put the past behind you. You’ve made a lot of mistakes (btw, you are not the only one responsible for the failing M) but you still have so much time ahead of you. It is never too late to start loving yourself. But the first step is stop beating yourself up for past mistakes. Really think about Steve’s question - what do you want? Read that part over and over again. You have to find your self-worth and self-love first before even thinking about having others love you. None of what your H says is acceptable by any standard. It is crazy. Why can’t you see yourself leaving that behind? How is he adding value to your life? Tough questions and maybe it will take time for you to figure it out....hang in there. Maybe in time you will have more clarity also. Hugs.
You are right. I do have to keep working on loving myself and these questions. I think the hardest thing for me is that family is such a strong value and rudder in my life. I hate divorce. I hate the ripple effects and what it will do to my kids, especially my little son who has confided in me in tears that he is terrified we will divorce. They don't deserve this pain. I believe marriage can be happy if two people can be less selfish and put their relationship first.
But there is so much i can't control, and his choices is one of them.
me: 46 h: 49 m: 24 T: 27 DD1:20 DD2:17 DS:12 BD1: PA for 2 yrs 08/2016 BD2: OW is one of my closest friends 12/2016 BD3: H wants a D 11/2019 Now: He is in the same house, but has filed for divorce.
