I do have one question. Why are you going with him to visit his parents? Can't he do that by himself? It just seems like this might be one of those opportunities for him to start to understand the things that will change when you D. (If it were me, because I lack self-control in this area, and my H came by to talk to me about splitting finances and then said let's go visit my parents together, I KNOW I would be like h3ll no, at least inside.)
You’re right, I’m still mulling over this. On one hand I love his parents and I do want to see them also. On the other hand, I don’t want to be part of his lie and play house with him. I thought about telling him to take the kids and visit his parents. I’ll just stay put. He can say whatever he wants to say to them about my absence. I think that I should not be the one to break the news to his parents. Am I right on this? Because 1) I don’t want his parents to have heart attack 2) his emotional state seems unstable for such a shock from me.
When he came by last night, I thought about his visit too. I’m leaning towards waiting until I see D papers to draw the line- keys back, don’t come by to hang out with the kids, take the kids to your place if you wanna spend time with them.
In my case because my MLCer does have suicidal tendencies, I want to be as gentle going about things as I can. Or maybe there is no difference??
