[quote=BobP]The tension, the wondering where the heck she was at times, was getting difficult to live with./quote]
What we find is that after the LBS leaves, or even after the WAS leaves, that the tension an dthe wondering where the heck she is doesn't go away. Many times it gets worse. Search internally, isn't this the case? Now that you know he's been spending time there, the wondering is worse, isn't it?
When you make decisions simply to try to relieve your pain, it rarely gets better, and sometimes gets worse. That is why we try to talk LBS into coming here for input before making big decisions.
BobP, I just told another LBS. Unfortunately there is no path forward that will STOP the pain. There will be pain no matter what. My suggestion is to forget trying to avoid the pain and start doing things that move yourself, and potentially your situation, forward.
I'm finding this to be true.
Unfortunately I only found this site a few weeks back. BD was 4/6.
When I think back over the entire month of April when I was in complete shock, feeling devastated, not eating, pacing back and forth throughout the entire night, trying to reflect back over every day during the last six months to try to understand the timeline better, I think of how much better I might have managed both my emotions, comportment and decisions if I had known about this forum and some of its contributors like yourself, AnotherStander, ovrnnbw and others.
I know where I will be going before I make any more big decisions.
Yep, none of us came to this forum without making mistakes first. The fact that you have that insight to your mistakes is a perfect first step! Hang in there, it gets better.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
