Is it too far gone?

[Traveler]

Not really a rule, but I know some here say don't be friends with her. Maybe this is more geared toward certain situations not like mine.

After many breakups friendship just doesn't make sense--e.g., one spouse has poor traits for a friend such as lying, cheating, or abuse.. OR you and their paths in life have little in common.. OR you wouldn't enjoy their company if they were to find a new partner and you had to watch them being all lovey-dovey.

I do want to maintain friendship even if it doesn't work out.

No 2x4s here. That's a fine goal.