While the berries post is about me and my relationship to my mistakes , it is also about our relationship to the mistakes other people make. They are doing the best they can... They are not doing stuff TO us, their mistakes aren't about US, if that makes any sense...
Anywho, in light of cheesy (hee hee) berries philosophy, maybe it was about you letting go of stuff with your mother that isn't ABOUT you, that you don't need to personalize or judge... Being able to forgive your mom for her infidelity is part of being able to forgive H too, ya know? You've done enough chastising yourself and others for going for the wrong berries. You tried a few bad berries (cuts of beef), they didn't work for you, you regret having served them to others, but hey, you took 'em off the menu. Time for some new berries, but that's life ... a bowl of cherries
Just a wacky thought from a nut job
Oh, and I'm doing great, thanks for asking Be grateful you don't have to do the dating thing though, dating is *confusing*, not meant for adults, wonderful, crazy, and more, lol... I still got my own world under my feet though, so i feel safe taking emotional risks. Funny how detachment, or what they seem to be calling differentiation in PM terms, is so central to real intimacy. I still sooo get that, and keep getting reminded of it.... When I can't tell what I want because I don't know how the other person will react, RED FLAG!!! I am making their stuff about me, and trying to make my stuff about them.... Where's the space for us to really connect as individuals? So, DBing has served me well... Yeah, there is bound to be some pain, but without pain, no joy, and all that good stuff. I'm a brave girl these days cause I trust myself to be happy, and that lets me be truly vulnerable. What I thought was vulnerability before was emotional neediness, the real thing is much scarier and safer at the same time. Who'd a thunk it? Rambling now, lol. You take care, you sage sage
, it is also about our relationship to the mistakes other people make. They are doing the best they can... They are not doing stuff TO us, their mistakes aren't about US, if that makes any sense...
... a bowl of cherries 
