Hey DB friends. I haven't been on the boards in a long while. I took some time off from all online activities (the board, social media, etc) just to live in the moment for a bit. Quick update for everyone here. W and I have reconciled and are currently piecing. We have been living together since the end of March and W officially asked me to move in shortly after. NC with AP since that time as well. It's not been an easy road thus far, but we are working through it together. W had gotten to a point of exhaustion with AP. She felt like her AP wanted more from her than she was willing to give.
Piecing is hard work, but we're slowly moving forward together. I still get rather emotional sometimes when we have hard conversations, and she is feeling a lot of shame and dealing with a broken heart. The desire and attraction is not there for her yet but she says she trusts that given time it will come back. There have been a couple of times we have gotten into minor tense moments. Usually, I'll be trying to clean something a certain way or do something and she will snap at me. I'll snap back and things get tense and awkward for a few minutes. I'm still working on controlling myself during those times. It's hard not to want to say hurtful things when we're both snippy (thankfully I haven't). I did lose my cool once during a R talk where I told her it would mean a lot to helping me heal if she would start to get rid of all of the little gifts and such from AP that are still around the house. She responded with "I left her and I'm with you, that should be enough". I snapped back pretty harshly asking if she "wanted a cookie for not sleeping with her girlfriend". Not my best move - but that rush of anger is so hard to push down sometimes.
Anyways, long story short we are doing well and pushing forward. I haven't caught up on everyone's sitch but I sincerely hope you are all doing well. May, I can't wait to read and see how you and H are getting along during quarantine. Yail, end of another semester right? U, I hope you're hanging in there bud and that you and your kiddo are well. IW, are you and waw still living together? I can't wait to get a few minutes and check in with everyone.
All my best,
KG
LBW 32 - me WW 31 T 7 M 4 No Kids 4 dogs
Separated 1y Navigating the mine field and GAL with or without
