My wife just came home for a second after to work to start laundry before heading back out. Her actions right now have been something that's been bothering me as well that I keep forgetting to talk about. It's just something that I guess I don't see get brought up much elsewhere. Normally it feels like other sitchs are dealing with manipulation of crumb droppings in these regards but not me. So first off she came home to start laundry normally she would just ask me to do it in fact this the first week in years I haven't been doing all the laundry. It's just something I've always done cause she use to work weekends. When she moved into the bedroom she took our spare hamper and said she'd deal with her own stuff I figured well good cause I should stop anyway. When she was in Vegas I didn't get to check the car before. So I texted her uncle and had him checkn it there. It was in fact low on coolant and he took care of it. When she got back complained for min about me not taking better care of it but quickly changed her point to she wanted to be taught what she needed to keep an eye on and how to do it and I should at least be able to do that. That she had been asking to be shown forever, which I've actually shown her various things before and talked to her about watching her gas, walking her tires, occasionally checking the oil and coolant. And of course watching her milage for oil changes. She rarely remembers to even check her gas let alone rememberdms the things we've talked about but now she wants to taught again. That led into a conversation about knowing how to pay her bills online, her student loans, credit card etc. Mind you she created or was there when they were created but had just never really bothered to learn because I take of it. In a strange way she kinda doesn't know how to be an adult but would only ask about the things in passing usually while we were out and if tell her okay tell me when we get home and we sit down and go through everything. But she never did and j would forget. Even this time I told we could look at but she wanted to take shower first and then went to bed. So today she was getting light bulb but she couldn't reach she instantly asked me for help and then said nevermind and got the step stool I bought for her 3 years ago and used it. I think this is the 1st time she's ever used it. Basically my wife has no interest in getting help from me anymore. She wants to be independent even in the little things like reaching a cupboard. I guess I just don't see that behavior too often from the other people posting. It's usually a weird limbo vs hard decision.
