And then it was over.

[Oceangl]

Just remember God doesn't sanction manipulation or emotional or verbal abuse.

Just as another thought: You can't compete with an affair or affair memory. Affairs are exciting and secretive. The partner can do no wrong. They have no laundry, kids, clogged toilets, trash to be taken out, homework to deal with -- in other words, it's all shiny and fake. It's not sustainable, either.

Marriages can be good, and fun, and have adventure, and love. But they can't be an affair. Affairs have no commitment. They are not built on your best self, or honor, or integrity. Not kindness, or encouragement. They don't go through hard times together.

For a long time I compared myself and felt like a failure. I don't want anyone else to waste time in that place.