And then it was over.

[BlueSea]

If you think it's more likely MLC, I suggest that you take some time and visit the MLC forum. The MLC forum has a lot of valuable information that may prove useful to you as you walk this path.

Job- I read a post you did years ago, about WAS vs MLC -- he seems more angry, so maybe more WAS. Honestly (and this is like having to pick between Ebola or Cancer) I would prefer he NOT be MLC - that sounds like a long hard path. And his childhood was apparently wonder whitebread, so hopefully not MLC.

I am not sure if you are religious at all ....

Steve - I would say yes, on the spiritual side for sure. And just started to dig deep into Scripture since I was seriously going off the rails yesterday. It has proven so helpful for me. I came across a realization. Every morning on the way to work, I would pray, to be a better wife, mother and daughter. And you should always be careful of what you pray for because I think He answered that prayer and using the actions of my husband to bring about needed changes in me, as a person. He is doing some serious pruning on me. "...will the clay say to the potter, 'What are you doing?" No, I will accept and I have found some comfort in this - and even though you all have said that I will come out a better person - I finally was ready to hear that and fully understand. I will not question Him.

He wont hurt me. And if he did, at least it would be over.

AnotherStander - no, sorry about that, I was in a very low space yesterday. I apologize and appreciate that you would take the time to notice and call me out on that. (where is the embarrassed emoji?!)

Oceangl - Yes, he is definitely in the one-up position. Though I think he has always thought I was the one-up for the past x years and he is now swinging hard, pendulum-ing as far to the other side as he can, to prove that he is not and will not tolerate being the one-down. I understand. Too much me is wrong, and too much him is wrong. I pray for balance to be found. This would never work long term - but I understand where he is coming from.

I will share that I am reading this 'How God can and will restore your marriage', its for women - and it has brought me much comfort thru Scripture. Not sure if I am allowed to post that. But this is where I am - shedding the 'poor me' attitude and embracing that this is my path - witnessed by all of you. To those that have replied and the moderators, you dont know that you rescue people with your words - like an ER of sorts. I feel like I have been triaged and chance for survival is high, though I felt pretty DOA not too long ago.

Good news for today (for me). He put his ring back on. (I know detach).