And then it was over.

[Oceangl]

I hear you...If I say this "I was too busy. From now on you are going to have to make your own food"... he will not appreciate that and will consider that very confrontational. If what I say does not please him, or irritates him in the least, he makes a point to get in my face and remind me that he is on razor edge of walking out that door. He knows that terrifies me. I don't know what to do to get over that. I am afraid to not make him dinner. Clearly, I have work to do on myself.

This is called manipulation. He does it because it works. He makes you feel bad and you cave and try to please him. And he will tell you that if he does leave it's your fault. Does this sound like a nice man? A good man? Someone you want to be with?

I don't know if its due to all the testosterone shots he is taking - or is this is an MLC thing? He very much enjoys hurting me. He will say cruel things and will openly smile when I breakdown and cry. When I see his possessed face, I get afraid, because I know what is coming, if its on, he will not relent. He is only satisfied once I am shaking / weeping and apologizing and telling him I will do better in the future. [b]Is this normal for a WAS/MLC??? He was never like this before, does MLC do this to a man?

Take away his power. He enjoys hurting you and he can because right now it is all about him. The whole house revolves around him.

It's time to empower yourself. Study detachment and validation skills in the links. Right now you are operating out of pain and fear. It's normal and understandable. You didn't deserve this. But fear and pain are not our friends and will run our lives and betray us.

Yes, you left your phone in his car. it was't a good idea and i dont think you'll do it again. but how dare he judge you? He has lied and cheated. He isn't kind. He isn't forgiving but expects this of you. Open your eyes and see how he is treating you like a puppet and pulling his strings. It's time to develop your 180s and focusing on you.