Wow Pommy. Our situations are so similar.

I am telling myself lately I can't fill his holes. I am too quick to let him have his cake and eat it, too. I get so excited when he throws a crumb of love at me, like a little puppy, only to feel so discouraged the next day when he throws me nothing.

I am working hard right now on not letting my happiness depend on him. I think this is good for you also. Right now you are experience the yoyo as he switches back and forth on what he wants. And you want it to work so much you (and me) let him get away with it.

IC is good. That's a good step. I just think its unfair they expect us to make up for the spark they feel is missing.


me: 46 h: 49
m: 24 T: 27
DD1:20 DD2:17 DS:12
BD1: PA for 2 yrs 08/2016
BD2: OW is one of my closest friends 12/2016
BD3: H wants a D 11/2019
Now: He is in the same house, but has filed for divorce.