Back with another update and a request for some advice. So much has happened in the past few weeks. First, through a series of different events, I essentially confirmed a few weeks ago that my WAW is actually a WW. I believe she was engaged in what was likely a PA since sometime in March. She doesn't know that I found this out (I wasn't really digging for it either but there were a few pretty obvious clues). Strangely, and probably because folks on this forum had been preparing me to not be surprised to discover this, I felt strangely calm after I discovered this. It was like I didn't have to wonder anymore, and it was almost a sense of relief.
Fast forward to this past week, and she started to act more friendly toward me, wanting to engage in more conversations, acknowledging all of the things I've been doing at home and for the kids while she continues to work extremely long hours, etc. I've stayed positive and have listened (trying to follow the Sandi's rules!) without being overly talkative myself, and have continued to work on my GAL strategies.
Then late last week, out of the blue she went to sleep in our bed without saying anything about it and has been sleeping there each night since (she had been sleeping in the spare room and essentially isolating herself there for the past month). I haven't said anything one way or the other, and haven't really acknowledged the fact that she's been sleeping there. The other night she reached out to grab my hand before going to sleep, and I let it sit there for a minute before rolling over and going to sleep. I continue to sleep in the bed as well but there's no contact. To take things even further, this past weekend she started wearing her wedding ring again, once again without saying anything about it or having any kind of conversation about our MR.
So what I'm essentially piecing together is that the A is over for one reason or another, likely from her ending it based on the info that I've gathered. Now she's wanting to show some kind of interest in us again, but she's clearly testing the waters a bit to see how I react. And of course, the last conversation we had about our relationship was her saying that she didn't want to be married to me anymore. I've remained pretty indifferent toward her, acting friendly, cordial, and happy, but not showing any type affection toward her.
Now I'm not sure what to do. I told her a month ago that I was ready to talk about the MR whenever she was. I don't know if I should confront her about the PA in any way, and I'm hesitant to initiate a conversation as I feel like the ball is in her court to do that. Still, she's showing indirect signs of her interest in our MR but not engaging in any sort of conversation about it. I can continue to do what I've been doing, which seems to be leading things in a positive direction, but I'm also cognizant that things could easily relapse at any time, not to mention the biggest issue of the infidelity, and the lies and deception from that leading to broken trust. I'd love any advice that people who have been in similar situations (or not!) may have...thanks in advance!
