Unfortunately, when it comes to fighting for your kids through the legal system, things can and will get ugly. What a shame. I don't care about the MR, but I do care about the pointlessness of this bickering. I'm going to be paying for lawyers' kids to go to college. My W can't let go of her abuse narrative and it's leading us to MAD.
I hope your attorney finds a cost-effective way to present your case, so you're not only facing the options of rolling over and doing whatever your wife says OR mutually assured destruction.