I think this is actually a good sign. He wants to be able to commit once he decides. the difficult part right now seems to be for him to decide that he's going to commit. You are also right, there will forever be a risk and nothing is perfect. He will have to see that too, to embrace his fears yet willing to do the work to recon.
There is something missing for him, and I think he feels what is missing has never been there (or not for a long time). I’m referring to physical connection. And I think he fears recommitting and being unfulfilled. And it’s catch22 - difficult to test the waters there without being willing to take a leap of faith.
He is working on himself and now having IC. But he has completely pushed me away, and R seems so far away now.
Originally Posted by LH
If memory serves me correctly he wanted to hit the dating seen. Well that’s completely dead right now. What happens when it opens up again? .
He had a desire to find romantic/passionate love. I’ve had the ILYB for a year. Although last week he was saying he’s realised that the love he does have for me after 20years is far deeper than the euphoric love and passion of a new relationship. And the weekend he announced he wanted to return there was a lot of tension and build up between us over 2 days and we ended up doing what he felt we would never do again! But then afterwards went back to saying it didn’t feel right.
M:49 H:49 T:20 M:18 D:16 D:14
EA: Feb 2019-May 2020 Separated: Mar-early Aug 2020 H asked to reconcile: Jun 2020 EA relapse: Oct/Nov 2020 Recon #2: since Nov 2020
