He is putting pressure on himself to be 100% sure he won’t walk again and I’ve said we need to work towards that. If everything felt perfect now we wouldn’t be in this situation.
I think this is actually a good sign. He wants to be able to commit once he decides. the difficult part right now seems to be for him to decide that he's going to commit. You are also right, there will forever be a risk and nothing is perfect. He will have to see that too, to embrace his fears yet willing to do the work to recon.
Originally Posted by Pommy99
What do I do next? Back off or remain quietly visible on the sideline? He is depressed and alone in lockdown. He says it is killing him as much as it is killing me that he can’t get over this blocker and that’s why he realised he needed IC. He says he desperately wants to feel the right things but something isn’t right. I don’t want to alienate him when he has nothing else, but maybe it’s what I have to do?
Keep validating and DBing. but I would recommend pulling back a little. He is obviously still very confused. He was ready, and then he got cold feet. Sounds like fear to me. He is questioning whether that was the right call, and you should too. Just because he says he wants to be back does not necessarily means he's ready. Has he worked on himself? What's changed? Lots of questions I know......again, give it time. Wishing you luck!
