Thank you Dilly. It doesn't feel like an accomplishment, weirdly enough. It feels more like - I don't know - not something I have TRIED to do, but a peace that comes from the results of stopping trying. I wish I could apply this more to my kids - I've been riding all over them about their school work, and even as I was doing it I was remembering saying that you have always trusted your kids just to get on with it - and they have - and realising the only thing that stops me doing that is a lack of courage.
But I have also decided I'm not doing Eldest's laundry for him any more. His room is a disgrace and he throws the clean and folded laundry on his floor along with the dirty stuff. Rather than nag him, I am just going to close the door on it and let him deal with the consequences of his laziness himself. Wish me luck on this. I told H and he laughed and said 'you'll crack before he does...' so it's a point of honour now!
